Tuesday, July 10, 2012


We’ve all heard this conversation starter: If you were stranded on a desert island and could only have one ______ (movie, book, friend, object, ect) with you, what would it be?

Recently, I had a wonderful conversation with people who I hold in high esteem and I realized that there is another question: If you were stranded on a desert island, what would you remember?

People probably won’t remember what you say to them. They might remember what you do to them. They will, however probably remember how you make them feel.

So then, how do you make people feel anything at all? Can you overcome their own biases toward you? What will motivate you to even try? Is there a correlation between whether or not their feelings are negatively or positively received and the reality of their benefit?

"I love you" isn’t always synonymous with "I make you feel good." For some people making others feel badly is their talent and empowering people is a challenge. For others, empowering is easy, but challenging is nearly impossible.

The trick is being able to do both.

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