- Trust environments are recognizable;
- Trust environments are definable based on the behavior patterns of individual members of the group;
- Trust environments are self-sustaining and self-enhancing;
- Trust environments can be changed.
But in low-trust environments where apologizing can be dangerous, self-correction is rarely the case. It takes an individual effort, often at individual peril (not to physical harm, but to group membership). Small, intentional personal shifts are the only beginning point as trust cannot be legislated.
Self-awareness is the key to these smaller personal shifts. Someone who may have survived in a low-trust environment/relationship will be able to make a transition into functioning in a high-trust environment. However it is really, really hard to get someone whose senses are trained to a high-trust environment to get comfortable in a low –trust one. High-trust environments are like bells – they are very hard to unring. Friends who all of a sudden get “bossy” and ultimatums are both examples of breeches of trust. That’s why we’re so offended by them.
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