I often observe people struggling with finding a level of
confidence appropriate to each situation.
Does being “right” and knowing it give you a license to monopolize a
conversation? Conversely, does
being unsure of yourself necessarily mean that your place in a conversation
should be in the background?
Of course, the opposite is also true. Sometimes we feel threatened by
ambiguity and defend ourselves by taking over a conversation. Equally frustrating, we watch from a perch either
out of apathy or in a scheme to take control after an interim failure has
occurred as others struggle.
Either way, learning to be appropriately confident is a
great skill and takes a lot of practice.
But more importantly, like playing cards, there is often a disconnect
between reality and perception when it comes to whether or not you have the
cards to win (whether or not your opinion will end up being the right
choice). Quite unlike playing
cards, the determination of who “wins” as the result of a group decision is
almost always far more difficult to discern.
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